Practice this quick and easy 5 step process for 30 days. Take turns going through the steps and it should take no more than 5-10 minutes each day.
Appreciations: Share something you appreciate about each other.
Wishes, Hopes, and Dreams: Describe something you want for the future. A spouse who understands your dreams is able to help make them reality.
New Information: We’ve all had to deal with last minute changes in our schedules or circumstances and we often forget to tell our spouse. Take this chance to keep each
other in the loop.
Puzzles: Most mysteries in your relationship have simple explanations. Don’t be afraid to ask what’s going on?
Complaint with a Request for Change: No complaining without a suggested solution. Your spouse always has the right to say no to your request or modify your solution. Instead of saying “I can’t believe you took my clean shirts and stuck them in the basket with
all the other clothes to get wrinkled!” You might say “I appreciate you doing the laundry and request that you hang up my shirts when they come out of the dryer.”
Thank your spouse!
For coaching on how you can use the DTR to improve your communication, contact Kevin Decker, Marriage Coach at 704.579.1693.
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